Having the Conversation with Your Doctor
Talking with your doctor about your medical care wishes is a discussion to have before a crisis occurs. Chances are that your doctor is waiting for you to start the conversation.
When you discuss your concerns and choices:
Ask your doctor to explain treatments and procedures that may seem confusing before you complete your directives.
Talk about pain management options.
Let your doctor know you are completing your Advance Directive.
Make sure your doctor is willing to follow your Advance Directive. The law does not force physicians to follow directives if they disagree with your wishes for moral or ethical reasons.
Give your doctor a copy of your completed directives. Make sure your doctor knows your appointed health care agent’s contact information.
Assure your doctor that your family and your appointed health care agent know your wishes.
You may ask your doctor specifically:
Will you talk openly and candidly with me and my family about my illness?
What decisions will my family and I have to make, and what kinds of recommendations will you give to help us make these decisions?
What will you do if I have a lot of pain or other uncomfortable symptoms?
How will you help us find excellent professionals with special training when we need them (e.g., medical, surgical and palliative care specialists, faith leader, social workers, etc.)?
Will you let me know if treatment stops working so that my family and I can make appropriate decisions?
Will you still be available to me during unexpected medical emergencies?